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Tony doesn’t give speeches.
He creates confidence experiences.
Each event is designed to help audiences:
> Reconnect to themselves
> Release fear around visibility
> Show up powerfully in real moments that matter
This is where mindset meets embodiment.
How Would It Feel If
You (or your Team) Could:
> Speak with clarity and authority at work or on stage
> Build deeper relationships without overthinking
> Lead without needing external validation
> Trust your presence instead of questioning it
This level of confidence is not reserved for “naturals” or extroverts.
It’s learnable.
It’s trainable.
And it’s absolutely possible for you even if you’ve held back for years.
BUT...
The Hard Truth (And the Hope Most People Never Hear)
The unfortunate truth is that many people never step into the confidence they know is possible for them.
Not because they lack ability.
Not because they aren’t smart, capable, or worthy.
But because they start believing the story that something is wrong with them,
that they’re “just not confident,” that they’re too quiet, too intense, too emotional, or too much.
After years of coaching people through confidence, visibility, and presence, across leadership, relationships, and life. I’ve learned something important:
Lasting confidence doesn’t come from fixing yourself.
It comes from activating what’s already there.
And it only takes two things to create that shift.
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2. Immersion in the Right Environment.
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Stop Asking WHY: Perspective Alchemist Katie Kleuber on Beige, Better Questions & Permission
EPISODE 6
Stop Asking WHY: Perspective Alchemist Katie Kleuber on Beige, Better Questions & Permission
Show Notes:
Episode Title: Stop Asking WHY: Perspective Alchemist Katie Kleuber on Beige, Better Questions & Permission
Host: Tony Babcock
Guest: Katie Kleuber
Episode Overview
What if the question everyone tells you to ask is the exact question keeping you stuck?
Perspective and Story Alchemist Katie Kleuber joins Tony Babcock for one of the most playful and unexpectedly profound conversations In the Spotlight has had yet. From Twinkies and milk to the rear-view mirror to the letter B, this episode makes you see the questions you ask yourself in a completely new light.
The central idea: “why” keeps you in your head. It keeps you beige. And there are better questions waiting.
About Katie Kleuber
Katie Kleuber (writing as Katie Pink) is a Perspective and Story Alchemist, author, and former division order analyst. She spent more than 20 years in oil and gas untangling chains of title before realizing her real superpower was untangling how people see things. Born in Alaska, raised across the United States and Grand Cayman, she is a lover of improv, a collector of extraordinary analogies, and the author of Beige Unless That’s You.
Instagram: instagram.com/author.katie_pink • Beige Unless That’s You: museunleashed.com/beige • Twilight Embers: museunleashed.com/twilight-embers
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
Why “why” is the question that keeps you spinning instead of moving
The alphabet reframe: B is the 2nd letter; Y is the 3rd from the last. Where do you want to stand?
How to replace why with what, how, and so what, and why it changes everything
"Reasons are excuses in a fur coat": what reasons are really protecting you from
What the color beige has to do with your identity and your choices
How constant movement and improv shaped a perspective that sees around corners
What a 52-prompt permission slip disguised as a self-help book actually looks like
Standout Quote
“Reasons are excuses in a fur coat. They get all dressed up and act like they’re something they’re not.” Katie Kleuber |
Episode Highlights
The Twinkies and Milk
A coworker once asked Katie the difference between a lease expiring and a lease terminating in oil and gas. Her answer, invented on the spot: milk expires; Twinkies only terminate if you eat them or microwave them. The coworker couldn’t put creamer in her coffee for months. This moment is the clearest possible window into how Katie’s brain works, and why she became a Perspective Alchemist.
Stop Giving Your Power Away to Why
The “know your why” movement asks a question that, according to Katie, never actually gets to the answer you’re looking for. When a real estate trainer kept pushing her on why she got out of bed in the morning, she said: because she was done sleeping. That’s not a cop-out. It’s a clue. Why puts blame outside yourself, stalls action, and begs for reasons. And reasons are excuses in a fur coat.
The Alphabet Reframe
Live and unplanned, mid-conversation, Katie looked at the alphabet and said: B (to be) is the second letter. Y (why) is the third from the last. Where do you want to stand in the conversation with yourself? Then she kept going: why is the rear-view mirror. Why is it so small? Because you’re not meant to spend most of your time looking backwards. Tony has been chewing on this ever since.
The Beige Problem
Beige is what you get when you mix all the colors and add a lot of white. It’s the neutral, the uncommitted, the “we’re all the colors and none of them at the same time.” And in life, asking why over and over keeps you mixing your colors into the same pot. The result: beige. Katie’s book is a permission slip to stop being beige. Or, as she puts it: beige is a great starting point. Put two beiges next to each other and you’ll start to see the differences.
Live Readings: Beige Unless That’s You
Tony picks pages 13 and 42 from the book live on air. Page 13: "You won’t know if it’s an anthill or a mountain hill until you reach the top." Page 42: "Does the door blame you for bumping into it?" Both land as perfectly as they sound, and they tie the entire episode together.
In This Episode
00:00 – Cold Open: Sex with Me Is Like a Portable Speaker
01:00 – Welcome to In the Spotlight
01:29 – Twinkies, Milk, and the Analogy That Stuck
03:00 – "Put My Brain on the Table"
04:00 – When Did Your Love for Words Begin?
05:22 – Born in Alaska, Raised Everywhere
06:54 – Improv and "Improvise, Adapt, Overcome"
07:17 – Favorite Words: Colloquialism, Bumbershoot, and Cabbage
10:00 – Perspective and Story Alchemist
12:18 – Seeing Around Corners
13:00 – Oil, Gas, Art Degrees, and Choosing Hard Things
14:33 – "Creatively Logical and Logically Creative"
16:25 – Flow State as a Runner’s High
18:10 – Stop Giving Your Power Away to Why
20:00 – "Know Your Why" Is Not the Question
21:46 – Why Stops You from Giving Yourself Permission to Be
22:04 – The Alphabet Reframe
24:55 – The Fireman, the Policeman, and How vs Why
25:37 – "Reasons Are Excuses in a Fur Coat"
29:37 – The Princess and the Pea
30:14 – Practical Steps: Stopping the Why Spiral
33:00 – You Can’t Get to London on a Park Bench
34:19 – What Lights You Up (And What Dims It)
35:20 – The Beige Problem
36:28 – "Why Keeps Us Beige"
37:10 – The Permission Slip
39:38 – The Book Structure
40:10 – On the Spot Readings
42:52 – Lightning Round
45:24 – "Coming of Self" in One Sentence
Want to Go Deeper?
Read the full blog post: [link to full EP.6 blog post]
It expands on the why framework, the beige metaphor, and the practical steps for replacing why with better questions.
If this episode made you question the questions you’ve been asking, share it with someone who’s been spinning in the why.
And remember: You always have a choice; to go within, to listen, and to own your spotlight.
Resources Mentioned in this Episode
Guest Resources:
Instagram (Katie Pink): https://www.instagram.com/author.katie_pink/
Beige Unless That’s You:https://museunleashed.com/beige
Twilight Embers: https://museunleashed.com/twilight-embers
Tony’s Resources:
Discover your speaker style (AI quiz): spotlightconfidence.com/speaker-style
Spotlight Speakeasy: https://spotlightconfidence.com/the-spotlight-speakeasy
Book Tony: https://spotlightconfidence.com/book-tony
Heather Lowry’s ADHD Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1bKZo8y2ro/
Connect with Tony Babcock
Instagram: @tonybabcockofficial
TikTok: @tony.babcock
Facebook: Tony Babcock Official
LinkedIn: Tony Babcock
Main Website: tonybabcock.com
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